Honoring Your Schedule
One of the most important places to make sure you have healthy boundaries is in your schedule. 🗓
That means you sometimes have to say NO, 🙅🏻♀️ right? But it also means you get to say YES 🙋🏻♀️😊 to the things that you love! 🥰
So what does it mean to honor your schedule? In the simplest of terms, it means plan what you have to do, plan what you want to do, 📝 and do those things according to the plan. So easy you can just do it now! 😳
But, we all know that nothing is really that easy. So, let’s talk about why and how.
Many of my clients have said they don’t like 😩 to follow a strict or rigid schedule, and I always respond with, “It doesn’t have to be strict or rigid.” There can and should be some flexibility in your plan, but not having one at all can lead to complete chaos. 🤪
I have found that having a planned schedule actually creates more freedom. It’s similar to organizing your home or your desk. If there is a designated place for things, they are much easier to find, right? Same goes for your schedule. If you have designated a time to plan, shop for and cook healthy meals, 🥘 you are much more likely to do that. And if you have a space carved out for a date night 💑 or family time, 👨👩👧👦 it will be easier to make that happen.
And knowing where each piece can fit can help reduce stress. Who doesn’t need more of that?! We all know that stress is linked to so many problems, including illnesses, so, reduce it? Yes, please! 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️
Now, how do you make it all work? 🤷🏻♀️
First, list all your priorities.
- Make sure these are things that are important to YOU, 👈🏼 not just what someone else thinks is important.
- Ask yourself, “Why is this important to me?”
- Consider what good things might come if you consistently did these things. 🤔
Next, list all your non-negotiable obligations.
- These are the things you must do each day, week or even month, such as work, carpool or meetings. 🚗
- Ask yourself, “What can I reduce or delegate?”
- Consider what is the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t do these things. 🤷🏻♀️ Can something be removed altogether? ❌
Finally, plug your lists into your planner. Treat each item like a puzzle piece. 🧩 Experiment with where it can best fit for you, and keep experimenting until you find the perfect fit.
It is important to remember that this will take a bit of time ⏰ at first, which seems counterintuitive. But if you continue, you will quickly find that there is an ease and flow to your schedule that hadn’t been there before.
It’s also important to remember that real life sometimes takes over and crushes the best of plans. 🤦🏻♀️ For example, my freezer went out last week. Everything that had been planned for that day had to be rearranged. Life happens, and that’s okay. It’s never going to be perfect, and the good news is that it doesn’t have to be! 🤷🏻♀️ Just take a breath, take imperfect action, and keep going! 🚶🏻♀️
I realize that this can be difficult, especially doing it all on your own. So I recommend that you get someone removed from the situation to look it over with you. 🧐 When a person is not emotionally involved, they can better see the big picture, and can offer some valuable insight.