Did you know that Mary Lou Retton was the first American woman to win an individual Olympic 🥇 gold medal? She scored a perfect ten 🔟 on her final two events and won the all-around! She was also the first woman to be on a Wheaties box and became their first official spokeswoman. She was the 1984 Sports Illustrated Sportsperson of the Year, and in 1985 she became the first gymnast to be inducted into the US Olympic Hall of Fame. She raised four daughters, one of whom just finished her own amazing gymnastics career. You might say she has been successful at life, right?
And yet, she struggles with never feeling good enough. 😳
How many of us are battling the same thing? I know I definitely have dealt with this for most of my life. In fact, there have been times that this has completely controlled my life! 🤦🏻♀️
I spent so much time trying to prove that I was good enough, that I missed out on a lot of great things. Once, I even remember my husband telling me to hire a housekeeper, but I refused because I thought it meant that I couldn’t handle all the things I thought I was supposed to be doing. 😱
What was I thinking?!⁉️
At the time I was raising two small girls and going to school. We lived in a very small house next door to my husband’s grandparents. His Granny was that iconic Grandma 👵🏻 who always kept a perfect house and cooked amazing food. In fact, I learned a lot of good things from her. ❤️
But the pressure (all from within, mind you) to live up to an image that I didn’t really fit was crushing. And because I was afraid to admit I couldn’t do everything, because it might make me look weak or inadequate, I struggled. Hard.
The house was usually a disaster 🌪 zone. Dinner was usually something really fast, 🍔🍟 out of a box. While I did okay in school, I didn’t do as well as I was really capable of doing. And my husband and children definitely didn’t get the wife and mom they deserved or that I wanted to be.
I was letting this fear of not being enough run my life and ultimately make me not enough. I thought I had to be Superwoman. 🦸🏻♀️ You know the type, the ones who do it all and look sexy in the process… but in trying to do so, I became a crazy lady 🤪 who was definitely not sexy!
So what do we do? How do we get out of the vicious cycle of never believing we’re good enough and then proving it to ourselves because we’re too afraid or too proud to ask for help?
Well, we start with one thing… a new mindset. 🤔 We start telling ourselves I’m doing the best I can. Every time that voice of doubt and fear come up, tell it to stop. Tell it you are doing what you can, with what you have, where you are. And that is always enough. ❤️
And after you’ve done that, (because we need some practical to go with that mindset, right?) choose one thing and do it to the best of your abilities. Start with something simple so that success is inevitable. Do that one thing 1000%, and make it amazing. Then take a moment and appreciate how well you did the thing. Don’t criticize. Don’t downplay. Just appreciate. 🥰
And when that feels easy, choose another thing. When we do this on a consistent basis, we can start to believe in ourselves. We can believe that we are good enough. Because we are. 🙂❤️🌻
If you want to see more, the video of Mary Lou on Dancing With the Stars after talking about this is linked, and so is the perfect 10 vault that won the all-around title.