Are You Being Who You Really Are?
Originally published 5/14/19
My daughter and I saw the movie Avengers: Endgame on Mother’s Day. I LOVE ❤️ this was that we do things together, and the movie was phenomenal!
Don’t worry… No spoilers here. I hate 😡 when people do that!
There were so many good things in this movie. We laughed, we cried, I was confused sometimes… 🤔 (I think it’s time to re-watch some of the others), but one scene really stood out to me.
Frigga, Thor’s mother, said to him, “Everyone fails at who they’re supposed to be. The measure of a person, of a hero, is how well they succeed at being who they are.”
That was such a profound statement for me! ❣️❣️❣️
I wasted way too many years trying to be the mom I was supposed to be, instead of who I really am and who my children needed me to be. I put a lot of time and energy into helping them be better students and better athletes, and to portray a nice image.
Now don’t get me wrong, these are good things. But those things became more important than just spending time with them 🤦🏻♀️ talking or playing or whatever they needed at the time. And those things became more important than taking care of me – eating well, getting enough sleep, taking a time-out for my mental health.
And before long I wasn’t who I was supposed to be or who I really was, because I was just drained. There was nothing left.
Now I’ve learned how to balance all these things, and each day I am becoming a little bit more of who I want to be. 🙂🌻 I’m learning to take time out for myself. I’m learning that prioritizing healthy meals and a good night’s sleep are critical for my well-being. And I’m learning that taking care of me doesn’t make me a selfish mother… it makes me a better mama.❤️
So let me ask you, are you being the mama you are “supposed to be” or the mama you are?